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Counselling — doctors

After going back home, we thought of ‘How and What should be done next ?’ because we should accept it and need it to be treated anyway.

I had a very good friend, who was also known to my family. We have known each other since our Nursery in school. I still remember, while playing in Nursery, we had a fight and the teacher made us friends by looking at it and that handshake hasn’t broken yet and will not break even in future. He completed his MBBS and waiting for PG admission after clearing the entrance examination. I called him and explained all that had happened and sent him the reports. He called me back within a few minutes and then we decided to meet. He told me ‘I have seen the reports, don’t panic, there is a treatment to it’. I asked him to come home once, and he said call me when your father is available, and I will come and meet. I called him the next day and he spoke to my father (as he also knows him very well). So, it is like talking to a family member.

He said ‘As a doctor, it is their duty to let the patient know about complications in surgery and even an Appendectomy, which is a very small surgery, will have possible complications, that doesn’t mean those complications will necessarily occur and not to worry about that’. He has given confidence to my father to prepare for the surgery. Till then, my father was very nervous about the surgical procedure, even I was very scared after hearing about complications from Dr.Aren. But, after hearing from Dr.CHT(my friend), I felt confident and even my father became confident.

I felt that ‘As a doctor, if you could give confidence to the patient, then that is a win-win situation and the doctor has won that case almost 60% by infusing that confidence, which very few of them do these days’. I spoke only a part of Dr.CHT, that he has done till here.

To be honest, my father told me before surgery that, Dr.CHT is one of the reasons behind my acceptance for surgery.

One of my aunts, who was working as an Assistant professor in one of the government universities, had a word about this to one of her colleagues. Her colleague’s brother is a doctor and he is Dr.Vardhan, he is a surgical gastroenterologist, my aunt took his phone number from her colleague and we made my father speak to him, to get him out of fear. Luckily Dr.Aren was known to him and he spoke to him about the case. He coordinated with Dr.Aren well, which helped us a lot. So, we decided to go for surgery…….it was………………..

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